Well I have opened up my home once again. This girl was someone who I had become friends with on line. I had stuck by her on her move to Texas to help out her sister-in-law while her brother was in Iraq. She moved from California to Ft. Hood Texas to assist her. Her stay at her sisters didn't last long, next thing I knew she was still living on base but with her boyfriend and his sister and her family. The stories she would tell me about that house made me shiver. She is 19, and I felt I could "help" her. So I offered her our spare bedroom.
We did discuss with her that we would help her get a job and that I wanted to help her learn to drive. I was more concerned that she learn to do for herself so she wouldn't be stuck depending on everyone for the rest of her life. She had access to everything in our home, even our "mother nature's remedy" we keep stashed in our bedroom. We however, only use it once in awhile, she would feel free to use it more than once daily.
In a matter of two weeks she was always going to my fiance, "oh I want to go job hunting tomorrow". Then I would make sure to be up, have the baby ready, and myself in the morning so we could take her out to get applications. Needless to say, the girl would be up all night and sleep in the next day. I am NOT her mother, so I would NOT wake her up. Then when she would get up, she would come to me saying, oh I couldn't sleep last night, oh my back hurt, my knees hurt, and many other excuses as to why she didn't get up and why we couldn't go out job hunting.
Finally, I went out job hunting! I let her know to be up by 9 a.m so she could get ready to go with me. He alarm didn't go off until 10 a.m. I waited around till 11:30 or so and she never got up. My brother was home that day so he went with me. We went and took lunch to my fiance, ate with him, and then went to the grocery store. I then came home with plans of dropping off the groceries and heading back out for applications. While I was home she messages me on the computer to ask me if I was mad at her for not going with me. I told her yes, WE were upset with her. She then goes on to tell me she doesn't see how I could be upset with her because she had gotten sick and because I had to get dressed and go out anyway. Well I let her have it then, after I lit into her, I then let her know I was heading back out and if she wanted to come with me to get her ass up and come with. Those two days were the only days she went out to try to find a job.
So she lived here for free, ate here for free for two and a half weeks. She babysat my 7 month old twice. Once on a Saturday and that was the only time I asked her to babysit, the second, was the day before she left because she offered to watch him while I went to a job fair. She had cleaned the kitchen up maybe 4 times. Also one of the last days she was here she wanted fast food so she offered to buy our food if we took her to get something. Well we went and picked up taco bell. To feed the three of us the total came up to $13.00. Now in doing those things this is what she had to tell someone about her stay here and the fact that I was kicking her out..
"thats fucked up since I've bought my own food, cigs, and what not, not to mention bought them dinner twice.... I've babysat their kid on several occasions, and I've been out job hunting.... oh and I clean the kitchen every fucking time I go in there...."
What let me to kicking her out was the fact that I got up one morning to the smell of the "herbal remedy" poring out of her room. Knowing we had hid our stash the past few days and knowing that she didn't have any of her own knew that she had been stealing from us. My fiance could also smell it all the way into our bedroom. She managed to get back to bed that morning with out seeing me and didn't wake up till around 5 that evening. I confronted her when she came downstairs and her answer to why her room smelled like "herb" was "I don't know". That was all she could come up with. I looked at her and said, thats all you can give me, is an I don't know?
She then got snotty with me and began the "Yes Angela, I don't know why my room smelled like that, I don't have any weed, nor have I ever had any." Well after that I told her that she needed to find another place to live. Don't you know after that she admitted to smoking "herb" in her room but made up an excuse as to why she had some of our stash. But she had this to say to one of her friends on line about it....
" I pinched their pot (not the issue they didn't care) and smoked in my room (they did care about that) and then lied about both (really pissed them off)
they told me to leave, I couldn't find anywhere to stay so I was going to be sleeping on the streets
I did just find out my roommate at the moment has been going around fucking trashing me even before any of this happened saying I've done nothing around the house and was a lazy bitch"
Funny thing is anything I discussed about her with friends I told her to her face, or more so on line because she wouldn't speak to me face to face. She had the nerve to tell my fiance that she was afraid of me. People that know me find that hilarious. If she should've feared anyone it should've been my fiance. Though because of her past he seemed to sympathize with her, so that would cause some conflict between us. I really don't know many people that would have given her as long as I did.
Her ex-boyfriends sister said she could come back there. So I once again made the one hour, fifteen minute drive to Ft. Hood to drop her off. Now I have mad that trip there and back three times for that girl. No, I was never offered any gas money. The ride back it was just myself and my seven month old son. I felt so relieved.
I now no longer have to walk around my house feeling angry because our hard earned money is paying for someone to chat on our computer all night, use our camera to take dirty pictures of herself and leave them in a folder on the desktop that she knows my fiance would open, to have phone sex, and then sleep all day because she had been up all night doing those things. Also to steal from us when we had made thing available for her to use.
I have decided I am not opening up my door to try and help someone again. I find that is just leaving you open for people to take advantage of your good nature.
I am glad she is gone and I am enjoying my peace!!